Morning download, 3.5.2019

I’ve been thinking about useful delusions, the beliefs that help us cope with the harsher realities of life. I’m talking about common, everyday delusions, not hallucinations or psychotic delusions.

I like to believe there’s going to be a tomorrow.

For some people, there isn’t.

I like to believe I will see the people I love again, many times.

Sometimes that doesn’t happen.

I like to believe the people I love know how much I love them, even if I haven’t told them lately.

They may not know what I see and adore in them.

I like to believe that I will continue to enjoy good health.

Until I don’t, because I’m mortal.

I like to believe that when I go to sleep, I will wake up.

I knew someone who didn’t.

I like to believe that goodness will prevail, and so will truth and beauty.

Sometimes they don’t.

I like to believe I can make a difference.

Sometimes I can’t.

I like to believe I have control over my life.

So much is beyond my control. Politics, economics, the environment, imprints, conditioning, ancestral energies, blood type, genetics, the weather, my own non-conscious mind…

I like to believe my plans will actually turn out how I planned them.

Nuh uh. Nope. Nada. Planning is cool. Just leave room for surprises because they are gonna show up.

I like to be optimistic.

Haven’t I just given you a bunch of reasons not to be?

I like to believe I will again see those I’ve loved who have preceded me in death.

I don’t know if that will happen.

Without useful delusions, the universe is a random and chaotic experience. Useful delusions bring comfort — and perhaps most of the time, they are true.

They can also be inspiring, giving us energy. If you aim high, you may achieve more.

Like perfection: perhaps your useful delusion is an ideal. Perhaps it gives you direction. Perhaps your non-conscious mind is leading you. Listen!

Just keep in mind, not always. Life includes shocks, losses, regrets, betrayals, conflicts, helplessness, sickness, death. It takes courage to face that truth, especially when it’s not in your face. It’s sobering.

You don’t have to think about it every minute. Just take it out of your pocket and acknowledge it every once in a while.

2 thoughts on “Morning download, 3.5.2019

  1. This post is so powerful! Delusions are a double edged sword. The ones you describe above are important if only because by easing our way in life, they give us a leg up in facing what ends up happening. That is, if we hold these delusions loosely and let them evaporate when they are no longer helpful. For example, it would be helpful for me to believe that I will survive my cancer diagnosis (No, I didn’t get one.) because it would encourage me to be active in my care and and take the necessary steps for that possibility to happen.

    Another kind of delusion–denial– is unhelpful because it leads us to ignore preemptive actions that could have prevented the problem. For example, if I believed I’d never get cancer, I might skip checkups, avoid exercise, and make unhealthy food and other choices.

    A third kind of delusion is believing negative ideas about ourselves. Believing that our bodies are ugly, that we are unworthy, and that we are victims who have no agency in our lives are sometimes delusions we cling to because they have become part of our identity.

    For me, the litmus test is the answer to the question, “Does this delusion help me move forward toward a life I want or does it move me away from that?” To me, this is a much more important question than “is it true?” For my peace of mind, I’ve learned to let go of any delusions once my situation proves them false. I let go without believing that my delusions SHOULD be true. I let go, saying “thank you, Delusion, for easing my way thus far. Now it’s time to part ways”.

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