Bill Hornback sends daily emails about Eckhardt Tolle’s The Power of Now. I really liked this one and asked him if I could post about it. He said yes.
Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now – “The pain you create is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is.” Ouch! This is so true it hurts! Since resistance to what is does not work, let’s chat about surrender.
A few years ago, I went thru a surrender process once, and it was . . . amazing. Until you’ve gone through this process, or one like it, you are just ASSUMING you have surrendered or know what that means. Perhaps instead of surrendering, life has only been a test of your flexibility, perhaps. Surrendering, especially for controllers like me, is almost too difficult an experience to describe . . . but I’ll try.
Imagine every reference point of your life, everything you know, every tangible object, every dream of the future, all being taken away from you, without any expectation of return . . . and imagine being good with that. Imagine that you’re OK with all that. Imagine it’s because it’s as if your mind has been stripped from you, or at least turned off, and you experience what it is like to just BE. Perhaps you understand, for the first time, that nothing outside yourself defines you. Nothing outside your SELF establishes or diminishes your Being. You are, and will Be. Perhaps for the first time, you KNOW, truly KNOW that you can create what you want to create, and would if everything you had disappeared. You are thankful, truly thankful, for the relationships you have, because you know those relationships were not created by you alone, they are the other person’s choice too, and they chose you, just as you chose them. You didn’t control the situation, you were only part of it, and were blessed by the mutual choice. Imagine understanding that your life starts over from this moment forward. If you can imagine all this, you may have a glimpse of what it means to “surrender to what is.” My life changed for the better from that moment. One of the first things I did was choose Julie again, and luckily for me, she chose me too.
I’m sorry if this is seems scattered or incoherent. I tried, but the experience was, as I said, difficult to describe. Many changes I’ve made in my life since then revolve around the concept of surrendering control, which is significantly easier to do at this point.
So, will you “surrender to what is” today, or beat your head against that wall time and again?
Intent: I will look for situations where I need to surrender to what is.
Outcome: Everything will become easier, simpler.
Presup: Respecting every person’s model of the world, including my own, is immensely useful.
I’m not sure I have experienced anything like this. In fact, I’m pretty sure I haven’t, except maybe for a few moments in my deepest meditations, when being just comes really alive.
I get that this is difficult to talk or write about, since it is a nonverbal experience. It is awesome to know that this is possible for someone and therefore possible for me.
I’d love to know more about how it’s done — as a guided meditation, perhaps.