I was so impressed by reading 15 Power Things Happy People Do Differently that I checked out more of Purpose Fairy’s website and found another jewel.
This one, as the title says, is about things you can give up to increase your level of happiness.
These are things we often do without thinking, such as believing we cannot do something, talking negatively to ourselves, making excuses, being afraid. All are makers of unhappiness.
It seems easy to say something like “give up your need for control”. Hoo boy, this is a big one! We all would like to have more control over what happens to us! I know I would.
So here’s a way to examine it. Think of something that bothers you. Is it something you yourself do? Then you have some control over it.
If it is something another person does, then you don’t really have control. You might as well give up the needing to control them and just let them be them. Serenity Prayer and all. You will have less inner and outer conflict in your life and more inner and outer peace.
I want that.
You can make this list work for you by first noticing something that makes you feel unhappy. Go down the list. Are you blaming? Complaining? Criticizing? Trying to impress someone? Odds are, it’s on this list.
Now imagine what it would be like if you didn’t do that. How would your life be changed? What if you no longer had the ability to do that?
Try that on and see how it feels. See how you feel.
The beauty is, once you imagine it, you are changed. Your brain now has a choice that you may not have recognized before.
The more you train your brain to be happy, the more it starts behaving in a happy way.
Before you know it, you’re a lot happier.